Photos taken by my good friend Heather Varela at Tuck’s Point in Manchester-by-the-Sea, MA
Do you ever have mornings where you almost burst into tears after dropping your kids off at school? Or did you ever have times after your mom or dad would drop you off at school when you were a kid and you just felt like crying because you’d been mean to them and said things that you knew you couldn’t apologize for until after school was out (pre-cell phone days!)? The former was definitely one of those mornings for me. Elle threw multiple temper tantrums and then neither Drew nor Elle did anything I asked without me telling them multiple times. It sounds like nothing and also like something every single parent goes through but when it’s happening, and in the back of my mind I’m thinking that we will have one to two more within the next months, it made me just want to burst into tears at the thought of not being able to handle things. Can we say “over tired”? And on top of that my schedule is totally full today with pick ups, appointments, swimming, parent teacher conferences and our adoption training tonight.
As I sit at my computer during the hour break I have between all of those things with a big mug of hot chocolate I’ve slowed down and regrouped. Rarely does a day look this full for us and everything on the schedule is great stuff… it was all happened to converge on the exact same day. And sometimes all it takes is quiet to feel like you can tackle the rest of the day. One of the best pieces of advice my mom ever gave me was when figuring out my birth plan was simply “you don’t have to be a hero”. That sentence has given me such freedom in so many other areas of life since then. So Ladies home with little kids… put on a show for them and make sense of your calendar for 10 minutes, do 10 minutes of email and make yourself a hot drink to force yourself to slow down. Thirty minutes of relative quiet, doing something for yourself and being productive will be good for the soul… and good for your kids when you come back more refreshed and less frazzled.
I hope the rest of your day feels restful and joy-filled, Friends!
Need some before and afters… see our first house tour and our current house: